I have been binge watching Glee on Netflix. One of the issues addressed on the show, that I have a difficult time watching, is the bullying in the school. I was bullied in school but never said anything. It wasn’t as severe as it is in the show where I was fearful every day, but I had my fair share of people calling me names, threatening to beat me up, and making fun of me. The thing is, just as it appears in the show, I never did anything to bring on the bullying. No one who is bullied does. We just seemed to be in the wrong place at the right moment.
We, as parents, have failed our children when they are bullied and we don’t know about it. The school system has failed our children when they are bullied with no consequences for the bully. Children’s feelings and minds are so fragile that when we do not intervene they live the rest of their lives insecure or fearful. Something in them breaks and it takes a higher power to fix it.
Life is hard enough as it is without someone raining hate down on us. We think too much of ourselves and not enough of our neighbor. I am one of the worst when I go to church and pray that God helps me to love my neighbor and then I yell at another driver or don’t help the homeless or those in need. We can get so wrapped up in our own issues and problems, and sometimes just our busy lives in general, that we fail to see the problems of those around us or we are too busy to help. And when we do this, we turn our backs and let the enemy have them.
Thankfully, the characters in the show realized they were damaging those they were bullying and they stopped. Unfortunately, that rarely happens in real life. The bully grows up continuing to bully and the victim grows up continuing to feel like a victim. And they pass it onto their children thus perpetuating the vicious cycle.
The solution? Love. Love to the bully to let them know they are not alone in the problems they are facing and someone loves them. Love to the victim to let them know they are not alone and they are loved and wanted.
There is an old song by dc Talk called “We All Want To Be Loved.” Later Toby Mac, one of the members of dc Talk, sang a song called “Made To Love.” I don’t think it is a coincidence that at one time he sang a song talking about how much everyone wants to be loved and then he sings a song years later that says we are made to love and be loved.
God is truly in control.