I have been having a difficult time with giving. I’m not talking about giving to organizations or the needy or the church. I’m talking about giving of myself. Again, I am not talking about giving to friends and the church. I’m talking about giving of myself to my husband.

We have been attending a church on Sunday afternoons in Plano called Redemption Church. It is “not mega but mighty.” Average attendance is about 30 people each Sunday…but they are the most amazing people you will ever meet! The preacher gave a sermon last week about sex and what it is and is not. It was an amazing sermon.

Sex is a God-created beautiful activity when it is “the culmination of a covenant relationship between a man and a woman.” Culmination being that end result and the highest most celebrated point of a relationship. Covenant being the marriage vow taken before God to forsake all others. And between a man and a woman because that is how God intended it.

Two things I got from this sermon…

Marriage is between a man and a woman because that is how God intended it. We could go on and on and debate about homosexuality and whether or not it is a sin, whether people are born that way or it is a choice, and whether or not you can be a homosexual and still be a Christian. My question is…if God says it is wrong, why continue to do it? If you are a Christian, and the bible is clear about homosexuality being unnatural (Romans 1:26-27), why do you continue doing something God says is not according to His plan? I have many homosexual friends and have a homosexual daughter. And I don’t believe homosexuality is any more a “worse” sin than lying or holding back your tithe or adultery. But if God says it is wrong, then we shouldn’t do it. People of the world, well, they are in the world and they will do whatever they want regardless of who says it is right or wrong. But as Christians we should be very concerned with what God thinks. And God knows best. After all…He is God.

2. Chris also spoke about the passage in I Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time…” Some of the versions include the words “sex” or “sexual relations” when it is speaking about depriving each other, but I really like the International Standard Version of this verse, “Do not withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so just for a set time…” DO NOT WITHHOLD YOURSELVES. This means more than just withholding sex. It means withholding of yourself. Every aspect of yourself. I’ll be perfectly honest, I am the first wife who will withhold myself from my husband in regards to sharing my feelings, sharing my interests, sharing what is concerning me, and sharing what God is teaching me. Withholding sex from our spouse is wrong, but withholding other things is equally as wrong.

So doing something scripture calls unnatural is wrong because we are doing something God doesn’t want us to do. And not doing something scripture tells us we should do is also wrong and God wants us to do it. Both are wrong and both are sin.

That sermon was truly an eye-opener. And I will go forth and do what God wants me to, not because I want to but because He commands it. If I receive benefits from it that is good, but if I don’t, well, I still have to do it because God commands it.