Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet.
I have posted a few times about a dear friend of mine who was making some really bad decisions. She went from living with one man to living with another within a month of each other. When I called her to confront her about it, we got into an argument. I thought the decisions she was making were detrimental to her relationship with God. She didn’t see it that way. To her, as long as she wasn’t committing any “big” sins, she thought she was okay. I tried to talk to her but all she did was justify her sins. It was truly heartbreaking. By the time we finished talking, I think we both knew she was going to continue to do what she wanted, and it had a profound effect on our friendship. As I suspected, since that conversation, she has not responded to my texts nor FB instant messages. I will give her some time to respond before removing her as a friend.
You may think this sounds harsh, removing her as my friend simply because she didn’t take my advice. But clearly she doesn’t want to have anything to do with me anymore, and I am sure that is most likely coming from her current boyfriend.
Jesus told the apostles in Matthew 10 that if the city or household they stayed in did not heed their words, they were to shake the dust off their feet. He said it would be better for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that city. Talk about scary. That also sounds kind of harsh to not have anything to do with someone just because they didn’t heed what you said. But if you speak truth for their own good and they choose not to listen, who do you think they will come running to when their choices turn sour? You, of course. And just like my friend, will they learn? Maybe. But most likely not. Until they learn, shake the dust off your feet. Have nothing to do with them.
I am certainly not saying, unfriend everyone who doesn’t listen to you. We would lose most of our friends. But if they refuse to talk to you after you provide them with sound advice, then why stick around? Why try to be friends with someone who doesn’t want to be friends with you? And that is where I am at right now. She hasn’t responded to me in two weeks, but she hasn’t removed me from her FB either. I know exactly what she is thinking. She doesn’t want to let me go, just in case she is allowed to talk to me, again. But I have learned, life is too short to throw my pearls before swine.
You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink. She doesn’t want to talk to me, that is her choice. But I refuse to sit around and wait. I have chosen to shake the dust from my feet.