My husband and I just got back from an anniversary cruise. Even with me getting sick it was one of the best cruises we have been on. Normally we look at the scheduled events and try to make the ones we want to go to. This time we decided we would not worry about the scheduled events and just do what we want to do. Relax, eat, and drink.

So after I got over the staying-in-bed-with-fever part of the sickness, we found a guitar player on board the ship that we really enjoyed listening to. He was young, about late 20’s maybe early 30’s. We found him in the lobby and listened then found him in one of the band rooms the next night to listen to him again. He asked us, because we were the only ones in the room, what we wanted to hear. I told him anything by Maroon 5. So out of all of their songs he sings “She Will Be Loved” which is one of my favorites. As he was singing I started thinking about the music video and our cruise. I suddenly got this great idea for a book. Before he even finished the song I had the first couple of lines in my head. I had to get back to the room to start writing.

I spent every spare moment the next two days hunched over a journal with my pens and ink refills. I didn’t bring my iPad with the keyboard so I wrote out the general story. I spent my days in the red lighted room where he sang the Maroon 5 song and the evenings writing while he played. It was the most fun I had writing!

I finished ninety percent of the story while on board the ship and the rest the day we got home. It took me a total of four days to write the story. It is the fastest I have ever written a complete story. All by hand. I didn’t want to mess up the flow so I finished by hand after we got home.

One of the other things that makes this book so amazing for me is that it is the first book I have written strictly about relationships. Normally my books have some overlying tone of murder or medicine or monsters. But this one was all about the relationship between Holly, the protagonist, her husband, and Daniel, the guitar player. I have been wanting to write a relationship based book but didn’t think I could do it. I know it was only the circumstances, the location, and the talent God gave me that allowed me to produce it.

If you are unsure about new experiences, do it. Experience is the fodder for creativity.


I have been having a difficult time with giving. I’m not talking about giving to organizations or the needy or the church. I’m talking about giving of myself. Again, I am not talking about giving to friends and the church. I’m talking about giving of myself to my husband.

We have been attending a church on Sunday afternoons in Plano called Redemption Church. It is “not mega but mighty.” Average attendance is about 30 people each Sunday…but they are the most amazing people you will ever meet! The preacher gave a sermon last week about sex and what it is and is not. It was an amazing sermon.

Sex is a God-created beautiful activity when it is “the culmination of a covenant relationship between a man and a woman.” Culmination being that end result and the highest most celebrated point of a relationship. Covenant being the marriage vow taken before God to forsake all others. And between a man and a woman because that is how God intended it.

Two things I got from this sermon…

Marriage is between a man and a woman because that is how God intended it. We could go on and on and debate about homosexuality and whether or not it is a sin, whether people are born that way or it is a choice, and whether or not you can be a homosexual and still be a Christian. My question is…if God says it is wrong, why continue to do it? If you are a Christian, and the bible is clear about homosexuality being unnatural (Romans 1:26-27), why do you continue doing something God says is not according to His plan? I have many homosexual friends and have a homosexual daughter. And I don’t believe homosexuality is any more a “worse” sin than lying or holding back your tithe or adultery. But if God says it is wrong, then we shouldn’t do it. People of the world, well, they are in the world and they will do whatever they want regardless of who says it is right or wrong. But as Christians we should be very concerned with what God thinks. And God knows best. After all…He is God.

2. Chris also spoke about the passage in I Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time…” Some of the versions include the words “sex” or “sexual relations” when it is speaking about depriving each other, but I really like the International Standard Version of this verse, “Do not withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so just for a set time…” DO NOT WITHHOLD YOURSELVES. This means more than just withholding sex. It means withholding of yourself. Every aspect of yourself. I’ll be perfectly honest, I am the first wife who will withhold myself from my husband in regards to sharing my feelings, sharing my interests, sharing what is concerning me, and sharing what God is teaching me. Withholding sex from our spouse is wrong, but withholding other things is equally as wrong.

So doing something scripture calls unnatural is wrong because we are doing something God doesn’t want us to do. And not doing something scripture tells us we should do is also wrong and God wants us to do it. Both are wrong and both are sin.

That sermon was truly an eye-opener. And I will go forth and do what God wants me to, not because I want to but because He commands it. If I receive benefits from it that is good, but if I don’t, well, I still have to do it because God commands it.